Growing up I heard this term a lot. I was told that if I didn't like a situation to just go with it and eventually I would learn to do it with a willing heart.
What a load of crap.
Why do LDS people, especially women, have such a hard time expressing the fact that sometimes things just plain suck? Why do we feel compelled in a horrible situation to say, "Oh, it's ok that my husband is in Iraq and could be killed at any moment. I feel good about it" or "My child died but it's ok because I'll see them again." Really? You can't tell me that's how you really feel. Are your emotions so shallow?
I am here to tell you that it's ok to stop faking it. Hate your life! Get pissed off that your husband keeps getting deployed, be mad at Heavenly Father for taking your child, your spouse, your parent. IT'S OK!!! Freaking show some emotion other than the "it'll be ok" emotion.
I gave up faking it a long time ago...right around the time I ended up on insanely large amounts of antidepressants. Consequently it was about the same time that Aren was asked as a five year old boy in Primary, "How does your mom show you she loves you?" To which Aren responded, "I know my mom loves me because she gives me Prozac every morning." Nice. And yes, it's true. Aren has been on antidepressants since he was three years old. He doesn't like faking it either.
Of course there are times when I'm really good at keeping my emotions in check, like every afternoon when kids come home from school and my house ends up being the place to hang out. I'm not that fond of children, but I can become that way if it means I have control of what other eight and nine year olds are doing.
I guess my point is that I can't imagine that my life is the only one that sucks as much as it does, but by talking to people, reading blogs, and whatever else, it kind of appears that way. I'm not asking you to air your dirty laundry, just remember that there's a reason there is to be an opposite in all things. You can believe that Heavenly Father will take care of you and still be annoyed as all get out that something has happened to you. There doesn't always have to be some kind of lesson that has to be learned. Sometimes life just sucks. Simple as that.